"Huh? Grandparents increasingly wanting to live their own lives is literally a change in behavior and social "atomization" is also a change in Behavior."
The difference, my dear Zoidberg, is that this isn't a case of blacks converging toward so-called "white" norms of behavior. It's a case of social norms disintegrating in both groups. The resulting depression of fertility is greater for black women because grandparenting is more crucial. Black men are less involved in child care.
"Its not only fertility and abortion, its also the difference in sexual activity which has closed the most."
So far, this is the only factoid that deserves discussion. Perhaps you haven't noticed, but much effort has gone into preventing the transmission of STDs, particularly AIDS, among teenagers. The wiki page provides a good summary:
" [...] federal government support has made abstinence the de facto focus of sex education in the United States, so that opponents frequently adopt the line that abstinence education is acceptable only if it is combined with other methods, such as instruction in the use of condoms, and easy availability thereof. Most nations of Western Europe use more comprehensive measures, and in sharp contrast to the heated discussion in the U.S., abstinence is hardly discussed as an educational measure.
A U.S. federal government-promoted abstinence-only program was aimed at teens in 1981 in order to discourage premarital sex and unwanted pregnancies. However, recent studies conducted by Mathematica Policy Research, showed ineffectiveness of this program. The Responsible Education About Life Act was introduced by Senator Frank Lautenberg (D-NJ) and Representatives Barbara Lee (D-CA) and Christopher Shays (R-CT) to support age-appropriate sexual education. This program is focused to provide teenagers with science-based information on sexual health, so that they can make a sound decision regarding their sex-life.[26]
In 2006, the George W. Bush administration expanded abstinence programs from teens to adults, by introducing programs to encourage unmarried adults to remain abstinent until marriage.[27] Family-planning advocates and researchers denounced the program as unrealistic, due to the rising age of first-time marriage in the United States.[28]
In 2010, University of Pennsylvania researchers released a model study showing that abstinence programs can be effective. The study randomly assigned some middle-school students to an eight-hour abstinence curriculum and others to sex-ed programs that included contraceptives and mixed messages. Penn researchers found that the abstinence-only offering reduced subsequent sexual activity by one-third more than other programs.[29]"
This isn't a case of people following certain social norms on their own initiative. It's a result of deliberate social policy, which often involves questionable methods:
"Author Judith Levine has argued that there might be a natural tendency of abstinence educators to escalate their messages: "Like advertising, which must continually jack up its seduction just to stay visible as other advertising proliferates, abstinence education had to make sex scarier and scarier and, at the same time, chastity sweeter"
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_abstinenceSo, yeah. African American teens respond to scare tactics, as well as a legitimate fear of STDs. They've often seen the results at close hand.